Married Discreet Singles

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First, why the puzzling name for the group? Space is limited in the Name block and I wanted to covey that we are talking about a group of MARRIED people who are DISCREETLY seeking a sexual partner(s) and doing so as a married INDIVIDUAL and not as a couple. I think that people in this catagory, especially men, have difficulty finding a quality partner because of the widespread bias against married persons seeking sex outside of their marriage. I'm hoping that this group will enable those who feel there is a problem to express their concerns and suggestions to help others better deal with the situation

Some of my thoughts follow:

Let's start off by looking at the typical situation relative to outcupid.com, and both the the problems and the advantages of being a married, discreet, single- someone married, but seeking a discreet sexual relationship with someone not their spouse.

HOW YOU ARE VIEWED IN SOCIETY:

You've been labeled as a cheater, home destroyer, adulterer, tramp, whore, sex freak, liar, and a host of other derogatory terms by others who have not walked in your shoes. You seek sexual fulfillment not available in your marriage. Divorce is not an option, nor is it likely desired by you. Therefore, you must keep your extramarital sexual relationship discreet. Your desires are in conflict with society's code of ethics and conduct. This conflict may lead to frustration, anger or depression.

Likely, especially if you are a man, many potential outcupid.com matches have passed you by because you have been honest and said that you are married. Some potential matches have objected to your situation based on their religious or ethical convictions. Others may think that the potential complications of a discreet relationship and potential for accidental discovery are problematical. Some may desire a more dedicated relationship, involving more time and commitment than you can provide because of your marriage and family obligations. Some, women in particular, have themselves gone through an emotionally painful divorce brought about by an extramarital affair. These ladies don't want your spouse to suffer as they did. Other potential matches may simply be looking for a single person, a potential mate for themselves and don't want to bother with a married person lacking this possibility.

However, being married, you do offer potential matches some great advantages that the unmarried may not generally have. You are less likely to have had multiple sex partners and thus have a lower risk of having an STD. You are not seeking a total commitment from the other person as you have an exiting relationship to attend too and are thus less likely to interfere in their personal life. You likely have children, perhaps dependent on you, and thus you are more risk adverse than others may be without these obligations. You are more likely financially secure, and stable for similar reasons.

QUESTION: Should married, discreet singles be searching for each other?

[COLOR blue]HOW YOU CAN CONTRIBUTE TO THIS GROUP-

Besides another opportunity to communicate your availability, I would like you to share the good and bad of your own experiences as a married, discreet, single and share advice that you may have to other married singles. Questions are certainly welcome. Perhaps the group could arrange a discreet, meet and greet in the future.