Women: Looking for the answers (IN MY OPINION)
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Posted:Oct 9, 2016 5:17 pm
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2017 2:45 pm
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All women who are single/available but attached, are looking for the answer to the same question. Is he the one? Its one of those questions your grandmother could answer just by looking at him. And she would be right. Thing are so much more complicated now a days. Smart women are more cautious and the not so smart ones are needy. God if that isn’t pathetic. (sorry personal opinion)
I talk to so many women every day, most on line and I take the time to read their profile to see which category they’re going to fall into. For some women its easy, others cant figure out what the problem is. Ive never had a problem attracting men, wow you wouldn’t believe how many Mr. Wrongs you can meet. I believe they have their own population. Do you want to know what men are attracted to?
Confidence, Independence, Style and Class. If you have these 4 things you’ll never be without a man's attention. That doesn’t mean you’ll find the right man, but you’ll have a lot more to choose from. The first thing you should look for, is a friend. 85% of women will marry their best friend. Yes it’s a very high number but its accurate. Think about it for a minute, what is your best friend?
Someone you can tell anything to and they wont judge you. Someone who will be there for you thru thick and thin. And of most importance, someone who’s got your back. They don’t even have to agree with you, but they got your back. Someone who wont even have to ask, they will know you well enough to know when something’s wrong.
They pay attention to small details, not because they have to because they truly want to be able to judge your responses. Let him be assertive in the relationship. See how long and when he wants to see you. Or even how often he calls or texts just to let you know he’s thinking about you. Oh yeah, that’s such a tell.
The very last thing you need to determine if he’s the one is your emotions. Ask yourself, can I live without him? Can I just walk away and never look back? If you can answer yes to both of them the odds are in your favor he’s possibly Mr. Right. Right about now probably ½ of you are either confused or think I’m crazy. Fact is I’m not.
If you meet a man who you feel you cant live without, run. He’s the last one need. Probably the first one you would chose, I once found this man. Instead I turned around and married my husband of 24 years. I’ll tell you why. In order to emotionally keep yourself in check and your life in balance you need to be able to do one thing in life. Count on you. Anyone can walk in and out of your life but if you can know deep in your heart you can count on you to make the right decision your all set. When all is said and done you’ll still be your own best friend. If getting into a relationship means giving up or losing one of those 4 things, Its wrong. If you ever lose your independence or your confidence your giving up what attracted him to you in the first place.
This is never an easy decision or answer, but you need to always protect you. It may sound cold but its not, and there’s nothing wrong with being guarded when it comes to your life and your heart. I’d rather have a broken heart and a level head any day. Love is great, and being in love is even better, but don’t ever loose you in the process. Your worth so much more.
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Tips for New Members
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Posted:Nov 22, 2016 7:46 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2017 12:20 am
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I have been an Ambassador for the site now for almost a year. I get quite a few members men and women saying that the site isn't working very well for them. The first thing is don't expect hundreds of responses the first week. That's very possible, but don't go into it with such high expectations. Second I always view their profiles. People I know this is a Social site but you must realize that it means something different for everyone. Everyone is seeking something different from the site.
Some people are on here strictly for hook ups, some for FWB, some for discrete FWB, most want to meet friendly people with the same interests but with NSA, some for chatting for a while to see if anyone catches their eye, and yes, there are some on here looking for LTR to see where it goes. One thing that will work to your advantage is to be upfront and honest about what your looking for.
Second thing I recommend is fill out as much of your profile as you can, no one is attracted to someone's basic information. You may appear as a fake and it limits your responses. Think seriously about your about me and what your looking for.....be genuine and honest. It goes a long way. Remember first impressions do not come with do over's .You can always change it or update it at another time.
Third I do recommend some type of pic. It is very understandable most people are hesitant on putting up a face pic. Some are not shy about putting up sexual pic's if that's your thing. But your responses will definitely triple with some sort of pic. some men put up from the neck down to just before the knees, that's revealing but still leaves something to the imagination. You also don't need a 6 pack to show off your abs, were not all barbies. For the ladies I recommend a comfortable pose either sitting or standing slanted on a wall with your legs or feet crossed if you don't want to reveal much. A face pic or sexual pic will just as well depending on how much you choose to show.
One thing I DO NOT recommend is using a pic of you 3 to 10 yrs ago. So many do not keep their pic's current and that can lead to a disaster if someone chooses to meet you. Imagine you liking someone say in their 40's and when they show up they used their pic from their early 30's when they had more hair and were 200 pounds lighter. Your setting yourself up for failure. Think about it if you were in their place, you wold be very disappointed also. Some people are very honest and state in their profiles they don't care about age or size. For the women who get offended about men asking your size whether your a 0 or a BBW one phrase I have used in the past is somewhere between Barbie and free willy.
Size does matter to some, and I believe you need to be comfortable in your body regardless of what you like. As long as you are clean and have a nice appearance you should be happy with who you are. Truthfully if your comfortable with who you are and they are not, its not for you. That is why outcupid.com has boxes of choices for you to choose from as to your appearance. It makes life much easier.
Last of all, please realize that any social site, want's to promote safety. From having protected sex to meeting in a public place for a first date. If someone requests money for their sick relative or the funds to come see you, it's probably a scam and you should be very weary of any of this and save the emails and send them into outcupid.com to get them off the site. Although the site is free, you get what you pay for. This site has a lot of restrictions for people who don't have a paying membership. It can be done without paying, they have IM's to chat for free members and chat rooms and groups so you can decide which is best for you. Depending on how much information you want available to you.
There is something for everyone on here, but you must be patient and not have unrealistic expectations. If your a very judgmental person this probably isn't the best place for you. This site has a little bit of everything for people from all walks of life.
To success in your ventures to add to your life what is missing. May you find what you are looking for, what ever that may be.{=}
Good Luck,
LikeSexy2016
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