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Ctr916aff 55M
5 posts
9/14/2018 4:21 pm

i love to practice full body massage.

Wonder167 52F  
1794 posts
9/14/2018 4:32 pm

I'm very affectionate and when that component is missing, it's like a piece of you is missing too.

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agedfun1 71M  
144 posts
9/14/2018 4:51 pm

Depends if you think you can limit it to just snuggling and friendly affection with your married friend. You consciously or subconsciously may end up having sex with him justifying it with " it's not like his wife is giving him anything." Tends to be a slippery slope if you don't have safety ropes in place. Many guys crave and search for intimacy if they don't have it at home.

TicklePlease 51F  
11734 posts
9/14/2018 7:13 pm

I'd have to say I'm a very affectionate person, I love touching (appropriately of course lol) those in my circle of friends/family/lover and I'm fairly verbally affectionate as well. I want it in return tho, and that's the hard part outside of close friends and family. Snuggling AND sex would be ideal.

papis_baby_girl 42F  
4908 posts
9/14/2018 7:57 pm

it's funny... I am extremely affectionate...just not with my mom.

I'm affectionate with my bro, my nephews, my cousin, my friends, my lovers, my boyfriends... just can't seem to get that close to my mom. I was able to show affection to my dad, but much later in life.

I know why... growing up the affection I got wasn't from her or my dad... it was my grandparents who poured every ounce of love and affection on me, thus resulting in me pouring love and affection on those close to me. Thank God for them and thank God I turned out that way.

Sorry mom...but when I needed you, you weren't there and thus... well... anyways...

yeah... being single has it's drawbacks in the sense when you need that connection, that touch, that affection, it isn't readily available...but when it is, watch out!

Feel better soon.

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Amoculi 63M
19 posts
9/14/2018 9:44 pm

Such a sad story. But it seems you have figured out at least one key to the secret. Another would be to make the separation from the unaffectionate FWB permanent. Affection in a relationship is normal and rewarding. When it is lacking there is something wrong, and when one person lacks the capacity as your friend does, the wrong is him.

Cold fish do best with other cold fish. Warm blooded animals go best with others of their species. By the way, you look like a famous actress. Theda Bara maybe. I can see why "Papi" likes to hug you. Now get well and back on your feet. There is "Papi" and a lot of other affectionate Papis out there too. Go get one.

BiggLala 46F  
25505 posts
9/15/2018 7:08 am

I tend to be more affectionate with friends, boyfriends, or sex partners (hesitate saying 'lovers' as I don't feel like I've ever had one) than with family. My mother wasn't affectionate with me growing up so I was used to not getting hugs from her.

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rr45044 63M  
41 posts
9/20/2018 5:47 pm

cuddlingsnuggling is a good thing ! and yes - affection is a learned behavior - some have it and some dont - and authentic affection makes a relationship better and false or no affection harms a possible relationship

marriedcretin 48M
1233 posts
9/21/2018 7:48 pm

I'd cuddle with the cat. But not a human. I'm not a cuddler. It's hard enough dealing with all the hugs folk want to give me. I don't know you. I am not hugging you. I put on my best British accent and shake hands. Jolly Well done! Simply marvelous to meet you. pip pip.

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