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Just LOOKING at someone almost cost me my job!
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Just LOOKING at someone almost cost me my job! I'm attracted to women ( yeah, my profile might confuse SOME people about that ) So let's get this out of the way.________ okay! Look at my blog without some preconceived thoughts. At my place of work, almost 2 years ago now, a female associate left the dept. we both worked in. It was a surprise to me that she left, so unannounced. and unprofessional like. When I found out she left, I though it had nothing to do with ME ( I never hit on her, nor pursued her in any way ( I didn't even ask for her phone number, nor did I EVER say anything like, Gee, you look nice today!) I don't even know where she lives. I was her co-worker and nothing more . I respected her and liked her because she knew her job, and did the right thing with it! Yet I found out that the reason for her acting like she was afraid of me and me being on the brinks of possibly loosing my job was because she felt uncomfortable abut the way I apparently looked at her !!!! ????? HUH???? She's a woman. I'm a man! Of course I'm going to look at women. No, I never stared at her! Btw, I also have seen her look at me! Did I make any big deal about it ! Of course not! But for Her, Still, I MUST have looked at her, in a way, that she felt uncomfortable with! REALLY ! ? Did she STILL not know me, after all these years? I was reported to mgmt for harassing her and other untruths too which surprised me! After my company investigated, they found no merit for what she was saying. A small thing (me looking at her), was make into a big thing, and in the end, my good name was given back to me. She is also married. I don‘t pursue married women; simple as that, for me! Also, I'm not interested in HER! We were co-worker friends, and friends ONLY, in MY eyes! Just because I look at a woman, or in their direction, does not mean I want her! I've gone past this mostly, even though it still hurts that others might believe in her nonsense and lies. It still effects me. But I know who I am, and by the way, I'm sill employed there too, even after she and some supposed friends tried hard to get me fired! Apparently looking or glancing at a woman is a crime ? Do women think that ALL single men in my age group are full of lust and without control ! ??? I guess SOME guys are, but... why do women stereotype men! !!!! I didn't judge my friends at that time, while they were openly judging me, based only about one person's view, actions and lies Yet when they found out that I didn't do anything and this was just in her head, they still never apologized to ME, for judging ME wrongly! I guess their friendship for this insecure person means more to them ! ? So, I've moved on (again mostly) I've lost a friend or two. But it still hurts when even friends, or so called friends believe in lies, when the truth is right in front of their faces! if only they opened their eyes and cared enough to look for it. Being curious and asking questions is a good thing! |
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8/5/2018 1:14 pm |
I would say that there seems to be a lot of knee jerk reactions by some women, not all but some. I would focus on the job and always look them directly into their face. No need to let your eyes wander, which also for a man is a norm. VADUKE
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Am so sorry that happened to you. I will say since this ME TOO movement began which is a genuine thing many women have blown it out of proportion. Some women think when a guy glances at her or gives a compliment its harrassment. May be english is hard to understand, My opinion. I would tell u to just keep to yourself act like the women at work are invisible. Be more professional . Women are trouble that i see alot at work . Jealousy and what have u.
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Some times its not about you but about they mentality of the accuser. Whether its attention seeking or something else, be grateful that your company did investigate and didnt find any wrongdoings on your part. Not every one is so lucky.
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One reason why I'm avoiding going into another workplace is this kind of situation. If you've seen my comments here you would get that I am a smart arce. I do tone it down a lot when in public/work. But as mentioned some people, men and women, can be very sensitive to a variety of things some of them that are really nothing as you described. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I've just recently had to untuck my shirt because a couple of my female co-workers have told me how much they like the "rear view". I wonder if I expressed the same sentiment towards other female co-workers how long it would take for me to be reported. Seems like a double standard is in place today. Especially when the gals wear the "skinny" jeans. How do they breathe? Just a thought.
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Some women are just super sensitive, I guess. Sorry this happened to you. I work at a catholic high school, and our finance guy in the front office used to talk to me at lunch every day. Not sure if there was something wrong with his glasses, or if he just thought I was sexy, but he would stare at my boobs when he talked to me! I just looked at him, laughed, and said, "Eyes up here, Dude!". No way would I ever get him in trouble. I took it as a compliment. Have a great day, and be nice to one another.
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